The worthiness issue
Worthiness often comes up in some form for most people. We build up a worthiness debit over time it seems and, unless we are really onto it and incredibly conscious and enlightened souls, these take quite a bit of work to identify and unravel.
I’m doing my fair share of this at the moment and it’s not easy. Long hidden truths are suddenly revealing themselves, or at least being forced to the surface to be noticed.
So many ways
It seems like the list of how humans can feel unworthy is endless;
unworthy of love or feeling unlovable
not being smart enough
not being perfect in some way or beautiful enough
not working hard enough
not being a good enough father/mother/son/daughter etc
not meeting others standards in some way
imposter syndrome
feeling we aren’t as good as others and so undercharging for services
not valuing ourselves and what we offer mentally, emotionally, spiritually or energetically
feeling like we can’t ask for help
people pleasing and sacrificing oneself in some way to keep the peace
feeling rejected or abandoned for some reason
being discriminated against or marginalised, leaving one feeling ‘othered’
not worthy of having been born
not worthy of even being on the planet!
This isn’t all the ways humans can feel unworthy, but you get the picture! And in case you are wondering, yes, I’ve met people who feel like they are unworthy of being on Earth. Very sad.
Recognise to release
So how do we release ourselves from the worthiness dilemma?
First of all, we need to recognise there is some sort of worthiness issue in the first place, and this can actually be the tricky bit. So many of us don’t realise we are operating with these unworthiness beliefs, and they’ve often been running in the background for decades.
Some of these are inherited beliefs. Some of them are formed in our childhood and some of them form in adulthood. I recently uncovered a belief I didn’t know was there about not being valued for the emotional work I put into my marriage and raising my two sons. Unless I was financially contributing to the household, I felt unworthy and would only spend money on myself when absolutely necessary.
This belief formed in adulthood, and I put it in here to illustrate how worthiness can form at any time. Although everyone seems to refer to childhood as being the main area where these beliefs are formed we are, in fact, forming beliefs about ourselves and our worthiness throughout our lives.
Spotting the belief
How do you recognise when there is a belief that is limiting us?
Quite often it comes down to an area in our life where we feel stuck, stagnant, unable to progress, or caught in a loop. This is often seen in relationships, where someone keeps ending up with the same type of person, over and over, even when they try really hard to pick someone completely different.
Or another easy one to spot is around abundance, or lack thereof. If you are ‘doing all the things’ but still not reaping the rewards, there may be a belief lurking in the background that is quietly sabotaging your efforts.
At some point you need to step back and become the observer. Look at your life from a higher perspective and start asking some questions.
Let’s look at relationships for example, as we can all relate to that. You could ask:
What beliefs do I hold about relationships?
When did this belief form? (childhood, teenage years, adult years?)
Is this belief mine or is it inherited from my parent’s, grandparents or other family members?
What did I experience around relationships when I was a child (for instance, what was my parent’s relationship like?)
How was I made to feel as a child growing up? (Neglected? In the way? Too noisy? Too quiet? Not smart enough? Too sensitive? Loved? Cherished? etc)
What are the patterns in my most recent relationships?
What part of this, if any, correlates to my childhood?
Is it true that I am unworthy in some way?
What is it that makes me think it’s true?
If I asked someone else, would they say this is true?
The reality
The reality is that we are all worthy. We don’t need to have done anything special, reached any particular goals, or look a certain way to be worthy. We are simply worthy because we are here, on planet Earth, at this time, right now.
Let me explain that last statement in a little more detail. In my work in the Akashic Records I have the privilege of asking all sorts of questions and receiving not only answers, but understanding around various things. When it comes to planet Earth, my understanding is this…
There are 8+ billion souls on this Earth at this time. That’s a lot. A huge amount. And a mere fraction of those who wanted to come to Earth at this time. There are billions upon billions of souls lining up to come to Earth, and you were one of the lucky ones to be given an opportunity to experience life here at this time of great change.
Humanity is going through a massive consciousness upgrade. Earth herself is going through an upgrade. We’ve just begun a whole new era, the Age of Aquarius, and a time of new beginnings on many fronts. And billions upon billions of souls wanted to be here for just this time. It is a time of great expansion and growth for each soul, of releasing Karma, and finishing what was started in previous lifetimes.
And you were one of the few souls out of those billions and billions that got the opportunity to be here at this time to expand and grow.
You are here because you are worthy
So if you ever think you are unworthy in some way, just remember that you wouldn’t be here if you weren’t deemed worthy to be here at this precise moment in time.
You are part of the whole. You are needed, you are loved and you are worthy. Please tuck that knowledge into your heart and carry it with you in everything you do. It is important you know this.
And if you are struggling to unravel your beliefs and worthiness issues, then call for help. There are many who can help you, including me and the Akashic Records.
You don’t have to do this alone. You are worthy of support, just as you are worthy of being here in the first place.
Kàren
